Originally Posted on One Handed Writers under “Does Writing Erotica Make You Aroused?”.

A lot of people have asked if our writing gets us hot.

Well, I wrote not too long ago about how one scene led to some of the best sex I’ve ever had, but I have to say that, as a standard?

Yes. Absolutely. If it doesn’t arouse me, how can I expect it to touch and toy with the arousal of the reader? If something doesn’t get me hot, then I’m doing something wrong, and that means I have to go back in and capture that feeling of sensational lust, of exquisite pain and pleasure, of butterflies in the stomach and a passionate encounter.

I write what turns me on because I know it’ll make others hot as well. I want to be able to connect with others on that deep, personal level where I can make their fantasies come true. Where I can make them want my characters to take it just one step further, and when it finally happens, they can moan out their delight.

Whether it’s fantasy, scifi, or contemporary it doesn’t matter. Readers need to be able to connect with the characters sexually. This is why what we like is so subjective, because it plays into our own biases, wants, needs, and turn-ons, and it’s why I write what gets me hot. There are some fetishes I don’t understand, or that don’t do anything for me, and so I’ll leave those to the experts.

Personally, reluctance gets me hot. I love it when a woman wants a man so bad, but she’s stuck because of societal expectations, because she doesn’t want to be a slut, because she’s not sure if this is what a good person does or because she knows it isn’t. Just the amount of passion and the emotional wallop you get is incredible to me, and it never fails to turn me on.

Our most recent publication, Bound by Forbidden Love, has a lot of these themes. It’s about an (adopted) son that has unnatural feelings for his mother. He can’t help it – she’s a beautiful, elven woman who prances about in tight, revealing clothes. She has such large breasts and a shapely rear, and there’s no other woman that compares to her for him.

After he gets dumped on her doorstep after a bender, she can’t leave him to his own devices and promises to care for him, as long as he gets his life back together. It’s certainly not her fault that he’s so handsome and young, that she catches a glimpse of him changing. How can she be blamed when he just keeps pushing her for more, especially when she’s so lonely?

It’s gritty, and messed up. Their relationship is twisted, and they try to cope with their unnatural love in different manners. They’re both unearthly gorgeous, but their feelings for one another are very grounded in reality.

Everyone knows about lust, and loneliness, and intimacy, and making bad choices in the heat of the moment. With high fantasy erotica, it’s even easier to crave the taboo, because even though it’s relatable, it’s separate from reality. There’s no negative feelings, no shame. It leaves the reader with just the raw emotion and sensuality of a woman saying no to her son, even though she doesn’t mean it. The need of a man who doesn’t care, who knows she wants it to and will help her get over her issues.

The theme of reluctance, of taboo and wrongness is very strong throughout the entire novella, and I can proudly say that we had some fantastic sex after (and during!) writing it. After all, what makes for better dirty pillow talk than discussing what you want to see next in the story?

It makes me understand why there’s a 50 Shades sex toy line, because when you connect on such a level with the characters, and the scenes in a book, it gets into your head. It toys with your fantasies and your emotions, and it makes you want to experience them more. If we can make you feel the same, our job is well done!